Special Ed teachers was to have a laminated card with “Now and Then” on it. Then set one small task followed by something a bit more favorable to come next. So it might be –
Now: complete a page in your handwriting book
Then: choose a book for Mrs Mc to read to the class.
It works well because the student is just looking at one task and one good consequence and I’ve got myself into a pretty good routine with it. I keep cards on “certain” desks so I can swing by and remind them of what they should be focused on and positively reinforce their choices when they have done what was required.
Interestingly I have found during the school holidays a similar technique works here. My boys are not always the most willing helpers and are a bit too distracted by screens. In order to get things done and get them on board I’ve been using “Now and Then” a lot. I’m not saying “now” and “then” but when asking them to do something or telling them something that is going to happen I include what will happen next.
- Please get dressed and brush your teeth then we’ll take Bronco downstairs for a rumble.
- When the dishwasher has been unloaded you can ring up X to arrange that play date.
- After we’ve done the grocery shopping we can do some cooking together.
And on the topic of cooking we’re doing a bit more of that too. Eric and his best mate made Butter Chicken and homemade naan bread last night. It took the best mate about 20 minutes to cut up a small pile of beans but he got it done and was pleased with himself. I’m giving them as much choice as possible so the meals are a bit different – nachos, butter chicken, sausages and mashed potato, ravioli. It is really gratifying to see their skills improve. Eric can now do a cake from scratch and use the stand mixer and Daniel is getting better at cutting up things. Dan’s original food prep specialty was mushrooms because I could let him loose with a dinner knife and he couldn’t do too much damage but we are moving onto other tools bit by bit.