I think Mothers Day went well for me this year because I let go of any expectations. We’ve been struggling money wise since I haven’t been working full time so I knew there would be no big surprises or special treats. It turns out that most of the treats were things that cost no money at all. I started preparing for Mother’s Day early in a sense because being a Year 1 parent I had the opportunity to help on the school Mothers Day stall. So for the past few months, in between other projects, I’ve knitted a series of cotton face washers in moss stitch. I managed to complete 8 and they were sold very quickly so perhaps I should aim for a few more next year.
The celebrations started on Friday with a Mass for mothers which has now become an annual event at the boys’ school. I went along even though I knew it would feel a bit strange sitting up the back on my own instead of being with a class. During his homily, Fr Peter told the children to go and put their hands on their Mums if they were present. I could just imagine the teachers cringing at the chaos which ensued however my two boys found me and laid their hands on me, repeating a blessing by Father Peter so it was very special. After Mass I spent several hours working on the Mothers Day stall mainly taking the money. I was careful to “avert the eyes” when my boys were shopping for their presents and I really enjoyed watching the very careful shoppers making their selections. I gave Eric money for presents and raffle tickets and he was clever enough to win me one of the raffle prizes – a large white platter decorated with raised olives. I can see myself putting it to good use at the next Book Club gathering at my place and at the big celebration we will be having for Eric’s Confirmation and First Eucharist in a few weeks.
On Saturday night I was asked to specify the time until which I would sleep in and at the appointed hour on Sunday morning the boys came in bearing gifts and then served breakfast in bed. Coffee and croissants – what a great start to the day! Eric then surprised me by standing at the foot of the bed and reading out a POEM he had written in my honour. Wow! I will publish it here but at present it is back at school for possible publication in the school newsletter. I am very impressed! In amongst the gifts bought by the boys there was also a voucher for a pedicure and manicure purchased by dh. I spent a quiet Sunday pottering around and on Monday night we went out for dinner. A pretty good celebration all round with just the right amounts of everything.
I haven’t got much today because I was cursed with a migraine once again so most of the day wasa write-off. Tonight A and I attended the first parent meeting for the Parish Sacramental Program. Eric will make his first Reconciliation in November this year and then receive his first Communion and Confirmation on June 6 next year. And so it begins. Tonight was a lot of information about upcoming meetings and some things to do with our children to get them more acclimatised to the Church, Prayer and Sacraments. We have been very slack with attending Mass and we really need to improve in that area. Luckily there are two really good Masses we can attend in the school parish so that is encouraging. The program leader advised making it more of an occasion by going out for coffee afterwards or going to visit friends etc. She also discussed many ideas for bringing prayer into the home – something we are sorely in need of. So this will be another project for me in the coming weeks. I’ll leave you with the parent’s prayer that we shared tonight because I think it applies to all parents, teachers and people who havea role in the lives of children.
Heavenly Father, make me a better parent. Teach me to understand my children, to listen patiently to what they have to say, and to answer all their questions kindly. Keep me from interrupting or contradicting them. Make me as courteous to them as I would have them be to me. May I never laugh at their mistakes, or resort to ridicule when they displease me. Bless me with the confidence to grant them all their reasonable requests and the courage to deny them privileges I know will do them harm. May I not rob them of the opportunity to think, to choose and to make decisions for themselves. Make me fair and just and kind. And fit me, O Lord, to be loved and respected and imitated by my children Cary C. Myers