They are fairly simple but involve a lot of work and the common thread running through them all is “getting back on track”. I’ve had my time out from the workplace and from just about everything else so this is the year to step up and take action in the following areas:
- Weight Loss – I won’t divulge how many kgs there are to lose but there are several. This is the year to get serious about diet and exercise.
- Family – This family needs to work together, play together and pray together.
- Home – I have the necessary skills and this is the year to put them into action.
- Career – Teaching is in my blood and I need to get back to it!
New Year’s Day has been a slow one for us. I’m taking the boys to see Fantastic Mr Fox this afternoon.
I think it might be against the rules of blogging to have two posts that reflect on 2009 but I found this set of questions today at the In-Courage site today and I rather liked them. So, another reflection on 2009 and I promise there will be no more!
Reflection Questions for 2009
1. What was the single best thing that happened this past year?
I got to visit the lovely Fifikins and family in Cairns.
2. What was the single most challenging thing that happened?
I resigned from my job of 18 years.
3. What was an unexpected joy this past year?
4. What was an unexpected obstacle?
5. Pick three words to describe 2009.
roller coaster, changing, reconsidering
6. Pick three words your spouse would use to describe your 2009 (don’t ask them; guess based on how you think your spouse sees you).
unmotivated, lazy, unemployed
7. Pick three words your spouse would use to describe their 2009 (again, without asking).
stressful, eventful, busy
8. What were the best books you read this year?
Probably the first two from the Stieg Larssen trilogy
9. With whom were your most valuable relationships?
My family, my work colleagues and my friends both on-line and IRL
10. What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this past year?
No longer working full time
11. In what way(s) did you grow emotionally?
I learnt that thoughts are just thoughts and nothing more
12. In what way(s) did you grow spiritually?
I learnt that God’s will has meaning for me.
13. In what way(s) did you grow physically?
Um, I think spread might be a better word here
14. In what way(s) did you grow in your relationships with others?
I have asked for help many times
15. What was the most enjoyable area of managing your home?
The times when I cooked meals
16. What was your most challenging area of home management?
17. What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?
18. What was the best way you used your time this past year?
Reading with my boys and praying
19. What was the biggest thing you learned this past year?
You are not your job
20. Create a phrase or statement that describes 2009 for you.
Leaving Behind 2009
I’ve borrowed this idea from the wonderful Ms Fifikins even though I haven’t forgiven her for forgetting certain house guests in her review of 2009!
I think the word for this year is different. And I’m hoping that 2010 will be different in a bigger and better way.
1. What did you do in 2009 that you’d never done before?
Did a family farm stay in June, resigned from my job in July and visited Cairns for a week in November
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
It was probably something to do with losing weight in which case it hasn’t happened
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
My sister Trish had Luke Robert on January 28
Lorraine gave birth to beautiful Mabel who has the best reasoning behind her name!
4. Did anyone close to you die?
I wasn’t really close but Mum’s brother Leo died in July and my cousin’s husband Fintan tragically was struck down by Swine Flu while working in Vietnam and died in September.
5. What countries/states did you visit?
Cairns, Gold Coast
6. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009?
a well balanced lifestyle
7. What dates from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
July – resigning
November – going to Cairns
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Learning to knit well
9. What was your biggest failure?
Weight loss and general organization
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Some ongoing anxiety and depression, high blood pressure
11. What was the best thing you bought?
12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?
My workmates at school who were so supportive of my decision to resign even though it was heart breaking
13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?
The people in the news for hurting others
14. Where did most of your money go?
Bills and debt
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Knitting. I don’t sound very exciting do I?
16. What song will always remind you of 2009?
Can’t think of anything right now
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:?
a) happier or sadder?
b)thinner or fatter?
c) richer or poorer?
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
work – both paid and in the home
eating healthy food
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
20. How did you spend Christmas?
With the family at SIL’s place
21. Did you fall in love in 2009?
stayed in love with my boys
22. How many one-night stands?
None! I’ve told you I’m not that exciting LOL!
23. What was your favourite TV program?
All Saints and I’m sad it is finished. Watched lots of episodes of Cold Case and Without A Trace
24. Did you make a friend with anyone that you didn’t know this time last year?
I have knitting friends!
25. What was the best book you read?
26. What was your greatest musical discovery?
The fact that Eric can play the piano
27. What did you want and get?
Time to knit and cross stitch
28. What did you want and not get?
A new job
29. What was your favourite film of this year?
Julie and Julia
30. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
39. Can’t remember. Already worrying about the next one!
31. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Getting stuff done
32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009?
33. What kept you sane?
34. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
35. What political issue stirred you the most?
36. Who did you miss?
Friends who live too far away…
37. Who was the best new person you met?
MIML – except that he isn’t the “man in my life” but Fiona’s however MIML is his Internet persona
38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009.
Everything happens for a reason
I’ve just completed my first knitting project for which I had no outside help. I found the pattern on Ravelry and was able to follow it from start to finish without being “rescued” by anyone. It is a seed stitch patterned dish cloth that will be part of Mum’s Christmas present.
Today it would have been easier to be a lot of things other than thankful. I’ve tried to steer away from:
anxiety – the need to get everything done and to keep two boys amused
martyred – here at home doing all the housework or at least feeling that I should
anger – when the boys act up in shopping situations
But I am still thankful for:
8. good friends for the boys to play with at the beach
9. the chance to teach the boys some geography and history at Point Danger
10. the anticipation of seeing presents opened on Christmas morning
11. the long list of friends and relatives to send our Christmas newsletter out to
12. the thunderstorm and accompanying drenching rain we had this afternoon
13. take away pizza for tea with no power
14. junior monopoly by candlelight to pass the time
15. a knitting “rescue” that will enable me to keep working on Eric’s jumper over Christmas
Daniel and I enjoyed taking a moment to listen to this video this evening.
I have thought about whether or not I should continue this series but I am going to do so as it is useful for me to clarify my thoughts and who knows, it might help someone else once day. This blog is supposed to be about “What Works for Me” and unfortunately part of that is dealing with negativity. So on to part 2.
2. Stay Calm. Remember who has the problem
Someone else’s problem does not have to become my problem unless I choose to make it that way. I can just accept that someone is unhappy with something and that is their current reality and then move on. I am in charge of my feelings and emotions and they do not need to be driven by anyone other than myself. Of course, some problems need to be shared and for some problems I do need to take responsibility. However I don’t have to be dragged down and made to feel bad about them. Instead I can choose to look at problems as opportunities for growth and development. So if someone in my life gets “wound up” about something it is not my duty to get “wound up” right along with them. I can choose my response to any situation and as much as I can – I choose to be calm. Sometimes I have to practice saying in my head “not my problem, not my problem” but I get there.